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How Can My Family Master Mindfulness?

If you’ve passed a magazine rack lately, you’ve likely seen that mindfulness is all the rage right now. Experts in health and wellness are raving about the many benefits of mindfulness and how its principles can improve your family’s well-being. But what exactly is mindfulness, and how the heck do you practice it?

Teach your family these 8 tips to enjoy the benefits of mindfulness:

1. Understand what mindfulness is

The fancy definition of mindfulness is, “a state of mind that appreciates the flow of consciousness in real time and with acceptance.” Basically, it’s the idea that you accept your feelings in the present moment without judging yourself for them. Mindful thinking can be very helpful for children learning to manage tough emotions, teens who are worried about their futures, and adults who are bombarded with daily distractions.

2. Discover its benefits

Mindfulness has been practiced for thousands of years and its many benefits include:

Promoting mental & emotional well-being

  • Decreasing negative reactions

  • Enhancing physical health

  • Reducing stress and depression

  • Improving sleep

  • Boosting self-esteem

  • Enhancing concentration

  • Improving relationships

  • Promoting empathy and self-compassion

  • Increasing resiliency and positive risk-taking

3. Go easy on yourself

A core concept of mindfulness is to acknowledge what you are feeling from an objective viewpoint, and not judging yourself for having negative feelings. For example, if a mom is feeling at her wit’s end with her kids, she could practice mindfulness by calmly saying to herself, “I am feeling frustrated right now.” By acknowledging your feelings, you remind yourself that they are temporary, natural, and do not define your life.

4. Focus on the present

Those of us prone to anxiety tend to worry about the future, and those of us who struggle with depression often dwell on the past. Mindfulness invites you to focus all of your attention to the present moment, releasing negative feelings from past experiences or fears of the unknown. Practice grounding your thinking to the present moment by focusing on each of your senses.

Example:

  • I am seeing the clock tick

  • I am tasting an apple

  • I am smelling lavender oil

  • I am feeling the carpet beneath my feet

  • I am hearing my favorite song on the radio

5. Accept the emotions of others

Mindfulness is not only about being able to accept your emotions without judgement - it’s also about embracing the emotions of others without blaming or shaming them. If you feel that your teen is acting entitled because they cried when you took their car keys away, practice mindfulness by acknowledging their feelings, even if you don’t agree with their perspective.

Example:

“I understand you’re feeling sad that you can’t take the car out tonight. It’s ok to feel sad about it.”

6. Get in tune with your body

Bringing focus to your breathing and movement is a great way to stay in the present. Practice mindfulness through yoga, nature walks, and creative projects. Listen to music and pay attention to how your mood and body react to songs you hear. Reflect on each living cell and muscle group that compose the intricate systems of your living body. Tense and release your muscles and just take time to dwell on the gift of being alive.

7. Do it anytime & anywhere

Many mindfulness masters set aside 10 or more minutes a day to sit in a quiet place and use guided meditations from books or online videos. That’s a great thing to do, but you can also just take quick moments to yourself at any time to refocus your thinking. Whether you’re stressed at work, upset with a family member, or overjoyed by some great news, it’s never a bad time to close your eyes, become aware of your breathing, and acknowledge the present moment.

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8. Get a mindfulness mentor

*Please note: since the publishing of this blog, Variations Psychology has narrowed its focus to diagnostic testing and psychological evaluations. Our Doctors can evaluate whether you or your loved one have a diagnosis and guide you through the next steps in achieving your mental health or academic goals. While Variations does not offer counseling, our diagnostic evaluations allow us to refer patients to specialists who are best equipped to meet their needs. In addition, this link can guide you through a directory of therapists, psychiatrists, treatment centers, and support groups in your area.

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Variations Psychology is a group practice specializing in diagnostic testing to identify psychological conditions. Our primary focus is Educational Psychology, guiding families on beneficial pathways toward student success and training educators in effective strategies to maximize student potential. 

Our comprehensive evaluations test for conditions that impact mental health and development such as ADHD, autism spectrum disorders, depression, anxiety, learning disorders, and developmental delays. 

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How to Cite This Blog Article:

Shinn. M.M. (2019). How Can My Family Master Mindfulness? Psychologically Speaking. [Variations Psychology blog post]. Retrieved from https://www.variationspsychology.com/blogs/how-can-my-family-master-mindfulness