Count Your Blessings: How to Train a Thankful Brain
“Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference.” - Winston Churchill
An appreciative outlook can make a life-changing difference on physical and emotional health. Unfortunately, life’s ups and downs can make it easy for people to put up a “mental guard” and train their brains toward negativity. The good news is, with the right attitudes and efforts, we can rewire our brains toward positivity in as little as 8 weeks.
So how can you make “grateful” your brain’s default setting? Take our positivity challenge by giving these tips a try:
1. Make time for mindfulness
“There is something wonderfully bold and liberating about saying yes to our entire imperfect and messy life.” – Tara Brach
Life can bombard us with negativity - bad news, breakups, conflicts, and obligations. Mindfulness can help you mentally escape the sorrows of the past and stresses of the future. Practice mindfulness by focusing each of your senses on the present moment. Listen to the birds singing. Feel the soft texture of a blanket. Gaze at the intricate design of a leaf. Smell the crisp air around you. Savor the taste of your coffee. Simply having the ability to touch, see, smell, taste and hear is an incredible gift. When you recognize that, you can’t help but be grateful.
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2. Put positives on paper
“Everything has beauty, but not everyone sees it.”- Confucius
Journaling your gratitude not only allows you to focus on the good, but it also provides a way to revisit positive moments you “collect” throughout your life. Every evening, take a moment to reflect on your day and jot down 3-5 positive things that you’re grateful for. Focus on:
Important people
Personal qualities
Health & basic needs
Favorite moments
3. “Eat” daily affirmations
“Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see a shadow.” –Helen Keller
If you start your day with a veggie omelet, you’ll probably feel better than if you hit up the local all-you-can-eat waffle buffet. Similarly, your thoughts reflect what you feed your mind. If you start your day by feeding it positivity, you’ll build mental strength and develop a healthier belief system. Invest in a calendar with uplifting messages or subscribe to a daily email. Affirmations can re-program your subconscious to think optimistically and heal past wounds.
4. Be a “Do-Gooder”
“The thing that lies at the foundation of positive change, the way I see it, is a service to a fellow human being.”-Lee Lacocca
Sometimes the best way to fill your own heart with joy is to share joy with others. Make an effort to carry out random acts of kindness, such as buying a stranger coffee, bringing a meal to a grieving friend, or volunteering in your community.
5. Make time for “Me-Time”
“You can’t make positive choices for the rest of your life without an environment that makes those choices easy, natural, and enjoyable.”-Deepak Chopra
In the hustle and bustle of our lives, it can be hard to make “me-time,” but it’s critical to regularly carve out time for activities that bring you fulfillment and joy. Whether it’s engaging in a creative hobby, reading the latest page-turner, or breaking a sweat at the gym, designate time each week for whatever gets your endorphins flowing.
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6. Find value in hard times
“I always like to look on the optimistic side of life, but I am realistic enough to know life is a complex matter.” –Walt Disney
We often save our appreciation for things that turn out perfectly. However, contrasting the good with the bad can lead to a more grateful outlook. Recognizing how tough times have shaped you to be wiser and stronger can help you appreciate those trials and minimize their negative impact on your life. Reflect on ways that challenges have developed your character or paved the way for “blessings in disguise.” This mindset will strengthen your ability to maintain a positive outlook through future challenges.
Example:
Instead of, “I’m frustrated my daughter placed 6th in the gymnastics meet. She’s trained so hard and we’ve spent so much time and money on this. She should have been in the top 3.”
Tell yourself, “I am so grateful that my daughter can participate in this sport and build work ethic, resiliency, and friendships.”
7. Put your emotions in motion
“I firmly believe that when I am positive, it not only makes me better, but it also makes those around me better.” -Harvey Mackay
Smile often, say thank you, and tell your loved ones what they mean to you – heck, tell anyone. Servers, postal carriers, cashiers. Not only will this make them feel great, but it can make you happier. Positivity is contagious, and these motions of gratitude will inspire others to continue spreading the positive vibes.
8. Hold yourself accountable
“Make your optimism come true.”-Christian D. Larson
As you approach your goal to develop a positive mindset, be honest with yourself about where you’re starting. Begin by quietly observing your thoughts for 10 minutes and pay attention to where your mind goes. This will help you identify where negative thoughts are coming from so you can work on releasing them. Keep yourself accountable by writing down your goals to practice gratitude and stop negative thinking, and post them somewhere visible.
9. Seek support
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How to Cite This Blog Article:
Shinn. M.M. (2019). Count Your Blessings: How to Train a Thankful Brain in Just 8 Weeks.Psychologically Speaking. [Variations Psychology blog post]. Retrieved from https://www.variationspsychology.com/test-blog/count-your-blessings-how-to-train-a-thankful-brain